friend’s home and we were having a chat over snacks. Shortly her mom joined us
and we started talking about how college life is. We were thoroughly enjoying
the conversation. Suddenly my friend received a text on her cell phone and
after that it was like only me and her mom talking. She had completely dropped
out of the conversation, just inserting some hmmms and ohs in the middle,
without even paying attention to what we were talking! At some point, I got
irritated and asked her “Who is it that you can’t wait to chat with till
later? Is it your boyfriend?” And to my surprise she said hmmm. There was
sudden silence in the room, I was looking at her mom, who was looking at my
friend, and my friend was happily busy texting with a goofy smile on her face,
totally clueless to the change in her surroundings. After sometime, she did
lift her head and seeing our faces, she asked “What?” without
realizing what she had said minutes ago. Of course it was a LOL moment for us;
though it took weeks before her mom stopped suspecting her and watching her
over like a hawk. This is an incident that depicts Phubbing.
Online dictionary defines Phubbing as an act of snubbing people in a social
setting by looking at your phone instead of paying attention. This act has
become very common these days, what with everyone becoming the devotees of
their cell phone. It is not just about texting; it can be anything like playing
games (candy crush is in vogue of lately), checking mails, watching videos or
just surfing the web. Most of the time, this Phubbing act can get very
not that I don’t indulge in this! I do. I am a normal human being after all!
But with me, it’s not texting. I hate texting. Yes, you read it right. I am the
kind of person who will call up someone if I have anything to ask rather than
wasting hour’s texting. I hate texting, point straight! But it is blogging that
I use my cell for. I keep reading and commenting on blogs when I have free time.
It annoys whoever is with me as they think I am ignoring them! And let me tell
you, I have been chastised for this act a lot by my mom and friends.
is what happens usually in Phubbing. Though we can’t give up our cell phones
totally, we can try and pay attention when someone is trying to strike a
conversation instead of snubbing them off by looking at cell. It will help
maintain relationships. Else while we keep trying to make friendship with
people on the virtual world, the real ones will keep on weakening! So here are
some little tips that we all can use
- There is a life outside your cellphone! Learn to appreciate it!
- Chatting with friends on Facebook and Whats app is of course exciting; it lets you keep updated as to what is happening in their life. But paying attention to what is going on right beside you will help you keep you updated about your own life as well!
- Games are fun! How can I deny that? But have fun with friends while they are with you. Cell phone will be with you all the time to play games when you are alone and bored.
- Don’t jump like a hungry wolf when you receive a text/mail notification on your phone. It will be there until you check it. If it is very important, make sure you excuse yourself from the person you are talking with before you get busy with your phone.
- Music is everyone’s favorite. But don’t force your choice on others by playing loud music in public places! There is something called earphones; use it.
- And most important, if you are with your friends or family, people who matter, then avoid using cell phones all the time. Don’t make them feel neglected!
Until the next post,